Side note: This is an article I did for a school project. We were supposed to make a magazine about love. This is one of my contributions. I hope you guys like it.
Recovering from a break-up is a tough experience. You will have to deal with momentary sadness and feel like everything you do will remind you of your past relationship. Don't know what to do after a break-up? Don't know how to "move on" and "let go" and all those other cliches your friends give you? Well, I've been single for four months and I've been through A LOT. To the newly-single folks like me, here's a few advice for you guys.
1. Hang out with your friends.
Remember the eternal line, "Your friends are here for you"? Well, this is a perfect chance to ask for some company. Your friends are one of the people who will help you through this break-up. Go out and hang out with them. Either talk about what happened or talk about other stuff that will take your mind of her/him. Talking things with them will help release some of those thoughts out of your brain. They're there to listen and give you company so you just speak your mind and they will be there to keep you sane.
2. Have some time alone.
We all deserve that alone time. You need to spend your time alone and have fun. For the girls, this is also known as shopping in the mall and for the guys, it means watching your favorite movie. Spending time alone will get to know what really makes you happy and will help you think about the things that you have to do. Having that alone time will really get you in the mood to think about other things in life like school, work or other commitments. Spending time alone will even make you know more about yourself and the things that are important to you. Everyday, spend at least an hour or two by yourself and you'll learn to appreciate yourself better and have that added self esteem.
3. Find that comfort spot.
Every now and then we ask ourselves, "What makes us happy?" Well, this is our chance to find what truly makes us happy. Since we have more time to discover yourself, we need now to find what makes you happy and forget all the problems that life brings. If you are the person that feels happy when you eat, then eat. If you are the person that feels happy when you buy clothes, then buy clothes. If you are the person that feels happy when you are with your pets, then spend some quality time with them. This moment is for you and what YOU really want to do. It is important to know what really makes you happy and at this point in your life, you really want to do the things that make you happy. This is YOUR time. Use it to be happy with the things that you really want to do — things that you enjoy doing.
4. Mingle a bit.
Don't be a wallflower just because your relationship ended. Learn to meet new people and get to know some of them. Don't let that experience stop you from opening up to other people. You need to socialize and just have some fun. Now that you are single, you are not restricted anymore to the people that both of you know; this is your chance to make new friends. Start new relationships; not on a romantic level, but at least try to get to know new people. The more friends that you have, the more company that you get.
5. Be confident.
Confidence is all it takes for you to "move on". You need that self-confidence to get up and start a new life. How can you live your life if you always think about yourself as a failure in your relationship? You need to learn to have that confidence in you to improve and make yourself a better person. Start to look at yourself every now and then. Look at the things that you need to improve on and work on those. If you feel like you look confident and happy, then you are good to go. You need to carry yourself in front of the people around you so you better look 110%. If you have that confidence in you to feel great about yourself, then this mindset will truly help you get up from your past relationship.
Finding yourself and being with the people you trust is really essential in moving on. If you learn to trust the company of the people around you, you'll feel much better about yourself. In effect, you get that confidence in yourself to move on and mingle with other people. All you need to think about is yourself in this moment of depression. I know that breaking up hurts but the biggest challenge is learning to step up after the relationship has ended. So get off your couch, stop crying, and be happy!
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